Mary Beth,
I also believe I'm much stronger for going through what we did, both with Braska herself and with the painful times around her pregnancy and first year that had nothing at all to do with her OR the DS issues. I would wish it on no one (well if I'm being honest, there are a couple particular people who I'd like to allow to feel what their actions brought at the other end!) but I don't know that I'd take it back if I could because it's made such a difference in me and my perspective especially.
We've still got alot of recovery to get through, but God is good and he's brought us such a long way already.
I do pray for a very uneventful delivery and postpartum time... it is admittedly a period right now that is bringing up alot of old and difficult memories, but I'm trying to believe that it CAN be different this time around. I'm praying every day for bonding as a family, that we will stick together for this adventure.